Confessions of a father to be… daughter edition

Hmm.. so we had the big reveal. Secretly, I always wanted a daughter (after some deliberation), I think it’s best that we had a girl.


Here is the Video for those who didn’t see it:



I can see myself being very hard on my son, thus making him hate me. Most people don’t know this, but I’m an ENTJ so, it’s hard for me to convey feelings/emotions. It just doesn’t come naturally for me. It took me a long, long time to get in tune with the emotional side of others.

So, with a young impressionable boy, I feel that I would want him to grow up and be a man much faster than he would be ready to do so. Oh, us ENTJ’s also lack patience and generally don’t react well to people who don’t get it quick enough or realize the effort we exert.

This will prove to be disastrous with a little boy, or I would have to train myself (as all parents should) to respond appropriately to their child’s needs.

I just can’t see me doing that with a boy… I know, I know. It’s too early to tell. I’ll grow into it, but I’m being honest here 🙂

Oddly enough, for some odd reason I see myself being a lot more patient with my daughter. Maybe, this newfound patience came from the recent interactions with my “new” sisters.

You may be wondering why I said “new” sisters. Well, I recently found out that I’m not an only child. My father had several other children, and I’m just starting to meet them. Very interesting times I tell ya…

Indirectly, my father taught me a valuable lesson. A father’s presence is paramount in his daughters’ lives. I feel as though I get to make up time with this one and give my little girl what my sisters never had. Odd, I know, but it’s how I feel and those who know me, know I say what I mean and mean what I say.

The other cool thing about this process is we get to name our child. Currently we are torn between going full rachet, half rachet or not rachet at all.

No matter what, I can’t wait to utter the following:

“I brought you into this word, and I can take you out of it!”

“This is going to hurt me more than it will hurt you!”

“(Yells) Ciroc-Peach Caviar Buggati Halle-Berry Brown if you don’t get down here and clean these dishes…..”

“My baby Remy is expensive doe, she can swim in it and all.”

Just kidding on the rachet names and baby weave… Our baby will have a normal name.

I feel that parents should think of the future profession of their child before naming them. Our child will have an executive sounding name-nothing that doesn’t seem CEO’ish or presidential.

For further emphasis on what not to do regarding naming your child. Check my article, which is aptly titled: If you want your child to be successful don’t do this!


  • Hey Dom! Congrats man! Either way, I'm sure you guys will be great parents, and at the very least, have financially responsible kids 🙂

  • URFinanceSimple /

    One thing my kid will be is, financially responsible :-). Thanks for the well wishes SamOn Mon, Sep 17, 2012 at 5:34 PM, YFS <> wrote: approve

  • I was just starting to think that Moon Unit Lovechild Brown was going to be the best name ever. Oh well, maybe next baby…

    How about this one: "Do you think money grows on trees?" The first time I said that I thought I'd shoot myself. "I'm becoming my dad!" (Horrifying….)

  • URFinanceSimple /

    LOL @ moon lit love child brownOn Tue, Sep 18, 2012 at 3:26 PM, YFS <> wrote: approve

  • Hey, Dom, great news. I have a son – John and our older sons wanted a girl but it was not to be. As to ENTJ – guess what? Yep, me too! And I scored high on the Aspergers test. Dear, dear!

  • URFinanceSimple /

    Oh wow.. I'm sad you scored high on autism test. Are you nervous? How does your son feel?

  • No, not autism…I scored high because of the obsessions – a major charcateristic to have if you are to be a successful academic and/or blogger. I am not nervous in the slightest and my son – at 11 – is one of the boys who tells his friends that his mum is really interesting, fun and cool. How good is that?

  • URFinanceSimple /

    Oh.. Sorry I misunderstood at first. That's awesome your son has a cool mom!

  • jefferson /

    Dom– Understanding that I don't know much about your emotional issues.. I can say with certainty that you will experience life in a completely different way once you have you first child.. You will see meaning where you never saw it before, and you will find yourself feeling pure and completely unfiltered love…

    Whether the baby is a boy or a girl.. All of what I just said is true.
    You will love it.
    I am happy for you!!

  • Congratulations! I had a girl first, and she was perfect. I thought nothing could be finer. Then I had a boy, and he was perfect, too. Turns out, kids are kids- and they are all fabulous! When we were naming our kids, the name had to pass the "Supreme Court Justice" test. If you couldn't insert the name successfully into the title: "Supreme Court Justice ______ ______ _______ Calls for Repeal" it wasn't in the running. Good luck choosing a name!
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  • URFinanceSimple /

    So, I guess Supreme Court Justice Ciroc-Peach Halle B'erry Brown just wont due huh? LOLOL.. In my mind as long as my kid is healthy I will be happy. As a parent you just have to roll with the punches when it comes to your kids. On Mon, Sep 24, 2012 at 12:55 AM, YFS <> wrote: approve

  • Congrats on the official news! I agree with your perspective on having a daughter first then having a son. My PE teacher used to be the most strict and brutal person on the planet. When his wife was pregnant we literally thought he would make the kid be like the kids from Sound of Music. But he had this sweet little girl and it melted his heart. Now he's the sweetest, strictest guy you'll ever meet 🙂
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  • URFinanceSimple /

    Thanks Carrie.. yea I can't wait to see my little girl.

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