Top 3 Money Misconceptions About My Marriage
We live in a judgmental society full of judgmental people who have tons of preconceived notions, assumptions, and perceptions of how things are, or how they ought to be.
Many people apply these assumptions and perceptions to what your relationship is, appears to be, or ought to be.
I wish people would stop assuming and just ask, but that will never happen. People are more comfortable assuming something than knowing facts.
Let’s dispel a couple of those assumptions
1. I take care of my wife
Ha… haha hahaha. Those who know me, know that I am not attracted to trophy wives or pretty faces without substance. Let me ask you this.. do I look like the type that would take on a grown dependent? (as in someone I have to take care of?) I hope not.
Fortunately, I was raised by a woman who worked, and who worked very hard to become successful, I’m attracted to strong, successful, independent women. I’ll use a sports analogy.
The Cleveland Cavaliers were good when they had Lebron, but they couldn’t win the championship. When Lebron went to the Miami Heat, they won the championship in his 2nd year! My point is, I don’t know who is Lebron or Dwayne Wade in our marriage, but we both contribute similar amounts to the financial pot and are equally important.
Our income is within 10% of each other!
If I stopped making money she would be my sugar momma
2. My wife is a spendthrift
False! Just because my wife love designer shoes doesn’t mean she’s a spendthrift. We just like different things. I will spend and I have spent more on electronics than she has spent on shoes. I think women get a bad wrap in the spending department. Men spend just as much, if not more, on clothes then we go out and get all the toys (cars/electronics).
3. I’m controlling of the all the money
Now this one I get, I understand why people think I call all the shots financially and Mrs. Brown has to beg me for an allowance.
I’m aggressive, assertive, loud, and talk about finances all the time.
Most people also know that I handle the budget and the day to day financial tasks.
What most people don’t know is that we are a corporation-a corporation called The Browns and every decision made needs board approval.
Who’s on the board you ask? Well 50% of the Board is Mrs. Brown and 50% of the Board is Mr. Brown. Now Mr. Brown is the manager and technician so he’s more hands on, but all actions have to be approved by the board or they don’t happen. Don’t get it twisted… Mrs. Brown knows everything that’s going down.
She knows how much we spent in each category on a weekly/monthly basis.
She knows our net worth She knows our 5 year goals She knows our real estate goals She knows how we are saving for retirement She knows how much comes in, how much is spent and how much is going to savings
She just doesn’t like talking about money all day, so I guess people think she is clueless.
A good board member / project manager doesn’t need to know how to do the work, they need to know if we are on track to meet our goals.
My job as board member / manager/ planner is to show the board everything, so they can collectively the best financial decision possible for the company. Now sometimes we don’t see eye to eye on something, but we do not make a decision unless we both agree on it.
Unless we both agree on it, it doesn’t happen!
Now that I dispelled the top 3 money misconceptions about my marriage. Is there anything else you would like to know?